momof2, it's a tough, but fair question: is he holding something back? it's just not that easy or black and white. he may.....or it may be something that hasn't been unlocked inside of him....I'm just not sure and unfortunately, it's not a simple this plus this means that ya know.....when I turned corners, and there were many (not because I'm so great but because I was such a mess and there were A LOT of corners I needed to turn to get healthy...) there was momentum and there was breakthrough, but some was huge and some was small and some was just kinda 'eh' ok I see that differently. one would hope that when they turn a corner there is a great sign of new life and positive momentum and positive change. but sometimes, and again s o m e t i m e s, corners are turned and there isn't any new details, but more personal and private momentum. you may approach the need for truth carefully to maintain the momentum and somewhat compliment the new momentum, but not cut your legs out from underneath you ya know? hope that helps.

thnk you for your question. for starters, i'd read these articles first to get an idea of some further background on grieving: https://www.affairrecovery.com/newsletter/founder/grieving-betrayal-after-infidelity https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/Samuel/grieving-for-what-was-lost https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/dana/mourning-vs-grieving it can be a bit arrogant to just send you articles I've written...but i take a lot from Rick and use my own approaches so those are great reads as well. for me, it was crying and it was pondering what i've done and what my choices had done. i had intense sadness for sure. i also had intense grief. but like you, there is a time when you have to move on and get out from underneath the pain and sadness and start to live again ya know? kids, life, bills, responsibilities don't care about grieving. so there is a time that you'll need to pick up and move on. but many times, case in point, people have a hard time forgiving as they never grieved (sadness,....anger.....sorrow.....deep thoughts on the whole moral failure and achieving the right perspective.....you may also google the five stages of grieving that some say are passive, but at the end of the day they give you understanding on the stages one usually goes through and understanding deeper, the mindset. i hope those help, but i'm happy to speak to it more if you'd like. i hope all this helps you in some way. thank you for reading and posting.