PRAISE THE LORD!

I can't wait for the subsequent interviews! I wish Ms Denis was nearer to me. We need this perspective so badly.

I would add that when the unfaithful doesn't recognize the distress reaction and doesn't respond with "How can I help you through this? or What can I do?", and instead tries to explain, minimize, etc, that the betrayed is additionally traumatized, causing exponential damage.

No empathy = no safety.

Thank you so much for this!

Thank you for bringing this information to us.

I am curious to know does the unfaithful experience the same attachment distress? Like when the unfaithful is having this adrenaline rush and maybe lashing out at the unfaithful. Do they have the same experience with the fight,
Flight, or freeze? When the betrayed partner is saying I can’t do this or showing their distress is the unfaithful experiencing attachement distress?

Thanks to your guest and for the great questions asked during the discussion. I would love to hear more about relationship attachment from the side of the unfaithful. Is it that they never truly were attached to begin with? It’s seems hard to grasp why if this attachment is so strong that they could go outside of the primary relationship.

Probably because of where I am at in recovery I think this is one of the best videos yet. But I think that about almost each one that is posted. It is so so helpful to now understand my responses. Thank you for these videos.

I can't tell you how much we could have used this video 4 years ago. Why our therapists didn't explain this process thoroughly to us as a couple is tragic. We had bits and pieces about the brain's reactions but nothing to this basic depth in layman terms. So understandable and meaningful, it should be basic 101 in marriage counseling/infidelity. Even to this day I experience the trauma on levels she describes from various triggers I encounter daily. You would think the episodes would diminish with time--for me the duration or lengths have lessened, but the intensity varies greatly. Samuel, many thanks to you, the professional counselors and the AR Group for providing and bringing quality material we can use and digest to keep our journey moving forward. On to part II.......

Ruth

This is a life changing knowledge for us, I believe it literally saved our marriage - thank you. May God bless you for it :)

Thinking has been so helpful for me, the betrayed, to understand what it is that I am struggling with going through this journey towards healing. Thanks so much!