Samuel

Thank you for doing these v-logs and sharing. They are helpful. The pain is excruciating. Both childhood from being a betrayed child and in adulthood by being a betrayed spouse. Adultery is soul killing to those in the blast zone, as well as the one detonating the device.

Hi Samuel! I am Always watching your videoblogs and am so greatful for them. I am now exactly one year from D-day and I have a big problem. Not my spouse, he is doing Everything right. He has done recovery work, he is displaying very safe behaviour and so on. The problem is, even though he is showing in all ways possible that I am the one he wants and that he is so serious with us, I can't stop hurting. And I can't stop being angry either. He Always lets me talk if I need, he Always listens, but I am still so filled with this dread that you call it. I am just waiting for the next betrayal. He really is doing all he can, and we have been to counceling together. Why am I so stuck? Why do I still have so much rage inside me? I love him and I don't want to leave him (unless of course he acts out again). Any tips you have for a stuck betrayed would be very appreciated, big thanks!

Hello Samuel.
I have been watching your blog on YouTube about a month. I really believe your programs are what we need to start new phase of our marriage. Yet, I can see and feel my husband,unfaithful, is listening because I asked to. We have been married 23 years and have two children, 10 and 13. This is his second infidelity. We didn't seek any help in our recovery when first infidelity happened. How I can approach him to suggest to register free boot camp. He says he wants and needs to see therapist but he hasn't done anything about it. I need to know he really feels what he says. We both want to stay together but I can't go on without knowing he values us the same way I do.
Sincerely