Edmond, good point and well said. the betrayed has options and decisions to make too that is absolutely correct. while these blogs are not exhaustive, I only have usually between four and six minutes to get the point across and it's impossible to touch on every point when it comes to something as calamitous as infidelity. also, i have found myself in an incredible amount of hot water when I, an unfaithful, try and pick the mind of the betrayed so i'm cautious about ever doing that without absolute certainty. i hope these blogs are somewhat helpful for you and provide some insight into the mind of the unfaithful and thank you for commenting and taking the time to read them.