Intellectually I totally agree with everything you say in this video. However, I don’t need my unfaithful spouse to blame me. The Hope for Healing course has been very helpful for this and I don’t feel like I am blamed any more. The problem is that I don’t need an external source to tell me that it is my fault because in that empty spot there my heart used to be that message resonates loud and clear. Understanding something intellectually is often easy for me but feeling it is another story. I guess it’s that saying “feeling is believing”. I’m just not there yet.

My ex spouse is still blaming me 10 yrs later. He really has to talk a LOT to manage his image. He was justified in every way if you ask him. When will it end? And how do I get relief? The facade is divorce ends the relationship. NOT true. Divorce only changes the relationship. We still have children and grandchildren together. He's a part of my every day life even though I never see him. I hate it. I want off this rollercoaster and to not struggle anytime my kids bring up his or his wife's name.