We are in week 10 on EMS Online. I am confused as to why are you still trying to blame the betrayed. I have been married for 30 years and my husband started cheating 5 years into our marriage. I did not drive him to his behavior. All I did was give birth 3 years in and give birth to twins 2 1/2 years later, who were born 4 weeks early and needed extra care of which he was not interested in providing. All the while I thought he just didn’t care because we were still intimate with each other but he started sleeping with a coworker. You can’t tell me how I could have prevented this and the several other things he has done to me throughout the rest of our marriage. All I did was to give birth, someone had to be the adult in the household. Why do you keep wanting us to find fault? I admit that I have not been easy to live with since I already had proof of the 1st time but he has always been in denial.