My betrayed wife has a birthday coming up at which point she will be turning the same age as the affair partner was when I began my four year period of infidelity. She has expressed real concern and hatred at being the same age as the affair partner was and that she is getting older. She has mentioned not being around to have to deal with the feelings that she feels around it. How can I best support her manage the thoughts she is experiencing and help get her through the day?