Hi Rick, How do I get to a place it makes sense to me? I have had a year and a half of first denial then lies, stories, and saying he does not remember, different versions and lies of same story. Now I have all this swirling information that does not all fit together. I have asked him to tell me the story as best he can chronologically. Says he does not remember. He asks what I want to know. I have asked questions for a year now and get lies or he does not know. Have done boot camp, EMSO, EMS weekend and polygraph 2 months ago (passed after he wrote out answers to questions suggested on AR the night before) has not answered any questions since polygraph. We are currently in married for Life. All the pieces seem to keep floating around in my head. I want a story that makes sense, gives me a time frame, something I can understand or wrap my head around. Is this unreasonable to ask for? The affair was emotional and sexual and lasted for maybe 3 years, he does not remember. It just ended June 2015, he thinks. I am back at a place I have been to many times. And each time there was in fact more that he was withholding. I do not believe him. I have asked many times for him to tell me the story. To this day he has not. It still feels like his story, his secret. Thank you