Thank you for your article on ambivalence. You mention the 2 voices about saving and ending your marriage and the debate they play out in your head. My question is this. Is it normal to not have those voices? I'm 9 months out and for the most part, the voices on both sides are silent. I'm not sure if it's because I'm just taking one day at a time and allowing whatever happens happen or what. I'm in a safe marriage where my husband has not minimized anything and has been doing everything possible to fix what he destroyed. Maybe that's why the voices are not loud. Any ideas?