I am at a crossroads at this point. Is it time for an ultimatum or time to tell him "I will be ok with or without you, I am moving forward" D-Day was April 2016, I discovered and confronted my husband of 16 years regarding his affair with a co-worker. I believe that he met her and then hired her so they could travel and he could "work late" and see her everyday. I feel he is making a fool out of me everyday he works with her at our family business. He was not remorseful of D-Day at all and said he had been unhappy and that he wanted a divorce. That word shook me to my core. I started doing all the things I know now probably didn't help me. I cried, begged, chased, etc. I started working on me and us and for all intents and purposes our relationship has improved. We spend more time together and he has re-engaged with our children. But and it is a big but, she is still in the picture and he recently admitted that this was our "new reality" and that he wanted to stay home with me and kids but that in his eyes we are no longer married giving him the freedom to have her too. He has never not come home and sleeps in my bed every night. I do not want to share my husband but am terrified of losing my family as I know it. Any guidance is much appreciated.