I was recently contacted by an ex-school-friend about my availability for a reunion via email. This person knew my affair partner. I disclosed this to my wife and also my reply, which stated I could not make it and was away. When I showed all this to my wife, as part of my disclosure, she did not like me only telling the friend that I was away. My wife wanted me to say that I didn’t want anything to do with them anymore or any future reunion. She now wants me to write to the school friend and tell them more directly. I don't want to do this as it puts me into harms way. What do you think? Should i write another more direct mail?