I have a few questions that came to me while I was watching this video. If the unfaithful is bonded with the a.p., can the unfaithful still love and be bonded to their betrayed spouse? How can the betrayed spouse believe the unfaithful loves them? Why should the betrayed spouse choose to stay with the unfaithful if they were in love with the a.p., when they had such strong bonded feelings for them and can the unfaithful fully love and cherish their betrayed without inference from the a.p.? Meaning, does the a.p. reside in the unfaithful's heart next to their betrayed spouse or can the a.p. eventually be relegated to the past and be gotten over completely? Last question, as the unfaithful is grieving and detoxing from the a.p., are they also grieving the loss of what the marriage was, like the betrayed spouse is now grieving, the loss of what the marriage was, what they had and the happiness they had shared?

My husband works with his affair partner very closely daily. He tries to avoid her and tells her to only email him when possible instead of Calling or stopping by but it’s been 7 months since he broke it off and he is still getting over her. He hates going to work and working with her makes it harder for him to get over those feelings. I hate when I see him down bc that reminds me that he misses her but he says he misses more the feelings and not her. I don’t know what to do. I don’t see how he can get over her when he sees her everyday.