My husband of 38 years had a 4-year sexual, emotional, and “love” affair with a coworker. We are 10 months post d-day. In January he finally admitted to kissing and a short emotional affair with another coworker that happened 25 years ago. AR videos and courses talk about the betrayed not focusing on the wayward spouses recovery. We both say we want our marriage to work; but I feel like if I don’t tell him what I need in order to be safe, such as therapy, EMS Online or Hope for Healing, and keep asking him if he’s set up an apt yet. He won’t do anything. So, how do I remain living together as a married couple and try to just focus on my own healing and not ask about what he’s doing without being upset that he hasn’t made an appointment with a therapist, like he promised to do 3 weeks ago.