Q&A What If My Unfaithful Spouse Feels They Do Not Need Therapy or Help?

Recently I suggested therapy and he got upset and said what more do I have to do - I have done everything you have asked of me. How can he be open to growth and change if this is his attitude. How can I move forward if I don't feel there has been a big change in him? Am I expecting too much? Why does he not feel he should do something on his own to not only repair himself but also repair us? How do I convey this to him when I see his frustration at my suggestions. It would mean a lot to me to see leadership in him in our recovery path - why is it only me? He has said that everyone else is moving on and we are not -this only says to me that he wants to move on and forget it happened. I actually still feel like he does not "get it" We have this HUGE recovery library at our hands but i don't think he has made any effort to look at these resources - even that would make a huge difference in showing that he is taking this seriously, taking interest -that he cares to fix what is broken. I feel its only me that is looking for recovery help. It makes me so sad and I feel hopeless at times. How do I get this message across?