It has been ten years and I am still stuck. We have been through EMS, then Harboring Hope twice, and EMS Weekend a year ago with many counselors in-between. I think my husband is doing okay recovering on the sexual aspect but not on the marriage. I think you said once if the betrayer continues to treat the betrayed in the same manner it continues to bring up past memories. I feel as if he still does not treat me lovingly. I don’t feel he is present most of the time. I don’t feel loved or supported physically or emotionally. I had a physical crises and he sat by watching and not acting to help. I feel a stranger would have seen me in distress and done something. Afterwards he said did his part by stopping at a red light for me. “WHAT?” He now admits what he did and said was dumb but majority of the time it’s AFTER the fact he admits when I tell him how it made me feel and is still hard for him to understand. He gets caught up in facts, his facts. He comes from a very dysfunctional family as they have visited their issues on me and my four adult kids the most recent being less than a year ago cutting us off inheritance and saying I was the cause of it. They don’t know about the sexual issues we have gone through they’d blame me for it. What’s next for me? I am really distraught.