I am the betrayed and we are 20 months out of D-Day #1.For the last 19+ months he has trickle truth-ed and been in denial. He viewed pornography for 16 years, had 3 separate emotional affairs, and has fantasized about hundreds of women sexually. He just told me that the "name" of a VERY young girl popped into his head while WE were being intimate and we are both freaked out by what this means. Counselors said it's residual thoughts from years of distorting his mind and objectifying women. I don't know what do with that. We have daughters and I am scared. He says he has never viewed under aged woman on line or fantasized about them yet this "name" or visual of her face won't stop popping up in his mind.