Today Samuel discusses how to flow through the endless ups and downs in recovery.
My husband’s affair was disclosed to me on a Friday, and on the following Tuesday, we were tucked into a cozy loveseat in the office of a local therapist recommended by our pastor. I was desperate for someone to tell me we could make it through this wasteland my life had become since the nuclear revelation of D-Day. The counselor asked us in a very soothing and pleasant voice why we were in his office that day. My husband informed him that we were having marital difficulties and then confessed to the therapist that he had been having an affair. This gentleman was a kind-hearted soul...
Today Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.
Samuel answers a viewer's question and helps the unfaithful understand they have power to change their image in the mind of the betrayed.
Samuel answers a viewer's question on how to alter the way they see their spouse early on in recovery.
Today Samuel takes us through a crash course in forgiveness, sharing what it is, what it isn't, and what it actually means to forgive.
The day my husband’s AP showed up at our house and told me that I needed to know “what kind of man I had married” one of my first thoughts was that our marriage was over. How can a marriage survive this type of destruction? I had always said that if my husband cheated I would leave. Some things are simply unforgivable.
After screaming, crying hysterically, and begging for answers my husband moved out of our home and into hers. That was on a Saturday. On Monday I contacted a lawyer about divorce and filled out paperwork to get temporary custody of our 15 year old daughter. A judge granted my request on...
Today Samuel shares key insight and vision into the new life he and Samantha experience but never saw as a possibility early on.
Samuel shares insight into how recovery doesn't gain momentum upon the mountaintops but through the seemingly unremarkable, mundane days spent in the valleys below.
Today Samuel delves into the anger of the unfaithful spouse.
Today Samuel tackles the concern of pushing the unfaithful toward their affair partner.
Today, much to my dismay, I read that timekeepers at the International Earth Rotation and Reference Systems Service will be adding a “leap second” to 2016 (which was already a leap year) on December 31. The article explained that without the addition of an extra second at carefully calculated intervals, atomic clocks become out of sync with solar time. Apparently, this is because the earth’s rotation is not constant, but at times it slows down and speeds up ever so slightly. This may sound like scientific trivia to some people, but to me it feels like adding insult to injury.
2016...
Detoxing in recovery is not always about the unfaithful spouse and their affair partner or habits, but also about uprooting dysfunction.
Samuel shares insight on the belief "What a Betrayed Spouse Tolerates they Reinforce".
Only a few short days after discovery, I started searching the internet for answers. I wasn’t even sure what I was looking for, I just randomly entered search phrases such as “my husband had an affair” and “how can I survive my husband’s affair”. It still boggles my mind that there are literally millions of internet sites to choose from on the topic! It’s staggering, shocking even and so incredibly sad to realize that adultery is so prevalent. I was haunted by the weight of the numbers. With so many sites to choose from how would I ever get the answers that I was looking for?
Then...
Samuel concludes the "It's never enough for you" series and shares ways to diffuse the frustration surrounding recovery.
Samuel continues his insight with thoughts on why betrayed spouses may say, "It's never enough for you".
Samuel shares insight into a phrase couples in recovery use often when they are frustrated: "It's never enough for you."
Samuel continues a discussion today with part 2 of emotional intelligence.
Samuel discusses a concept called emotional intelligence both in marriage and in recovery.
Samuel discusses a time when his mentor confronted him on his pride and justification.
Samuel discusses the mental struggles of a spouse in recovery due to infidelity.
Something occurred at work today that took me back to memories of life just after Dday. I was a basket case for a while. Even after the worst of it I was still very much buried in the weeds of the jungle that is recovery. It was almost impossible to see anything but the weeds. I started making decisions based on being in the weeds. Some days I would decide I was done, only to decide shortly thereafter I was ready to fight, then later that day or the next it would hit the fan and I would decide I was again done and around it would again go. Some days I wanted my wife dead other days I wanted to save her. It felt like I was...
Samuel discusses concepts and mannerisms you can't take into the next season of recovery for your marriage or personal life.
Samuel answers a viewer's question on dread and how to fight back when you're living in recovery from an affair.
When it comes to intimacy, it’s important to address not only physical intimacy but also spiritual and emotional intimacy. Humans are extremely complex and it is miraculous how our body, mind and spirit are intertwined to encompass our whole being. Today, Samuel shares openly about his personal struggles with physical intimacy and introduces Affair Recovery's first ever Sex and Intimacy retreat. Register here dont delay, spots are limited.
Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosing his infidelity and embracing new patterns in life.
This week Samuel shares insight about a concept foreign to many in recovery: delayed anger.
Samuel shares part two of his mini series on grieving through recovery from infidelity and how we get stuck in the process.
Betrayal is a pain like no other. 10 years ago, I didn't know that there was science behind the physical reality I was feeling each year as I passed the anniversary of beginning Affair Recovery. Lynn is the author of Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal, a devotional for woman dealing with the trauma and heartache of betrayal.
