Samuel shares insight on one of the key approaches by the betrayed which prevents healing in his third part of the mini series.
Part 1: https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/samuel/blockages-healing-part-1 Part 2: https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/samuel/blockages-healing-part-2
Sex and intimacy are such big topics and it seems all couples struggle with one or both in some way. Couples that say they don’t struggle in either area are either the rare exception or more likely, they are not giving you the full story.
My wife and I always struggled with sex, me wanting it all the time, her not so much. She has always struggled with enjoying sex. She can never seem to relax enough to get any enjoyment. In fact, our sex struggle was one of the reasons for her affair. She thought that maybe she had just married the wrong guy and that maybe sex with someone else would be...
Samuel continues his mini-series on what mindsets prevent healing in recovery. Part 1: https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/samuel/blockages-healing-part-1
Samuel shares factors which prevent the betrayed spouse from trusting again.
Eleven days after D-day and moving in with his Affair Partner my husband returned home so we could see if our marriage was worth saving. For a couple of hours that evening we sat together reading old letters and looking at old pictures. The tough conversations would come later but that night while reminiscing about our past we connected in a way we hadn’t in years.
My husband and I met our sophomore year of high school when I was 15 and he was 16. He was the first boy I ever dated. We went our separate ways and dated other people but after graduation, we reconnected freshman year of college and were engaged. Sure I...
Yes? Congratulations!!
Bet you didn’t expect that statement after revealing what felt like your spouse tearing your heart out of your chest and stomping on it, did you?
I remember back to D-Day, the devastation, the uncertainty, and the pain. I remember vomiting until there was nothing left to vomit. I remember the hopelessness. I remember the suicidal thoughts.
I remember the advice and guidance. God told me to forgive. My friends told me to dump the skank and go get laid. My parents told me to protect the children. My pastor told me to pray. My lawyer told me to preserve evidence....
Samuel explains the journey of recovery and how it continues to be an unfolding process, not a one time event.
Samuel does a follow up to his first video on his journey to faith, addressing disappointment.
Samuel begins a new mini series entitled blockages to healing where he discusses the various roadblocks common to recovery after infidelity.
John Gray wrote Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus in 1992 and subtitled it “A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationship.” The book highlights the differences between the way men and women respond to stress and stressful situations. With more than 50 million copies sold Gray obviously hit on something at the heart of relationship problems:
Men and women think, react and respond differently.
The truth of that fact was front and center for me on D-day and in the months and years since. I would be screaming in anger and pain while my husband would...
Samuel shares the most important language an unfaithful spouse can speak and the most important language a betrayed spouse looks for.
Samuel shares more about he and Samantha's past and how early on, he was terrified of himself.
Samuel shares insight about a struggle with Samantha on always feeling behind schedule.
Samuel discusses how soon to get to expert help after discovering infidelity in your relationship.
Samuel shares key insights into assumptions we make about our future and what life will look like on the other side of infidelity.
Samuel tackles the misconception that since recovery is a noble thing to do, it should be easy.
My daughter and I have been watching a series we found on Netflix named Dexter. Dexter is a blood spatter analyst by day and a serial killer by night. His adopted father was a cop and recognized Dexter’s “dark passenger” at an early age. He taught Dexter how not to get caught and to only kill those who deserve to die. So Dexter is a vigilante who only targets other killers, especially serial killers.
The show puts the viewer into the mind of Dexter by letting us hear his thoughts. The conflict between his “good” and “bad” personalities becomes even more contrasted once Dexter marries a woman with two...
Samuel shares insight regarding his early belief that God was done with him and would never use him again.
Samuel shares practical insight on how to generate momentum and consistency in recovery.
Samuel answers a viewer's question on some of the pitfalls of forgiving your spouse too soon.
Samuel shares the concept of having proper guardrails in recovery after infidelity.
Samuel breaks down a tool in recovery that will help diffuse conflict and restore intimacy much quicker.
Samuel answers the question of the betrayed spouse, 'Am i crazy for being willing to stay and forgive?'.
Samuel shares a hard hitting recovery principle not only for infidelity recovery but general marriage healing as well.
Our emotional diet in recovery speaks volumes. Today Samuel reflects on we are what we feed on.
Today Samuel shares insight on how to stay away from bitterness and how to to avoid the pitfalls of regret.
Samuel shares a humorous but telling story from his childhood which paints a picture of recovery for both spouses who are stuck.
Samuel helps the betrayed spouse deal with regret and fear.
Samuel tackles a difficult but necessary discussion regarding the inability to remember details by the unfaithful spouse.
Today Samuel uses an analogy to discuss how to allow the process of recovery to mold not only yourself but your spouse as well.
