It’s on the television, in the movies, in the news, on the internet, in the papers; infidelity is everywhere. Infidelity has always been around, but we live in a time when we have access to more information than ever before. And it seems that many find infidelity entertaining or newsworthy. Of course - I don’t and I am sure that anyone reading this doesn’t either.

Infidelity is horrible and destructive and I wish that the world would just shut up and allow us to work on our recovery without constant reminders, harsh judgments, and really really really bad advice. Let the experts who know what they are talking about give their wisdom and speak the truth (like the people at AR). The last place we will find sound counsel about recovery is in theatres or late night talk shows.

Right after my “D-Day” a few years back, Tiger Woods was all over the news about his sexual addiction. And then there was Sandra Bullock and her husband. And The Good Wife had just premiered. It was terrible. We could not go through a day without being hammered by infidelity everywhere. Of course, there were ever-present painful reminders without these, but they just added to our pain (especially my wife’s – since I had been unfaithful).

Since it was clear that the media world around us didn’t care about helping us, we knew we had to do something. We knew we couldn’t totally avoid it, but at least we could try to minimize our exposure. And so we made choices to turn off the television, not watch movies, and not read articles that had infidelity themes.

When infidelity was introduced on a show or news program, we would talk about whether to turn the channel or agree that it would be okay to watch (it was usually okay if it was not a major theme of the show). We took the opportunity talk it out and as a result we have experienced a much greater level of communication than we have ever had before my infidelity. It has also helped us to decrease the confusing pop-culture voices and focus on the healthiest path to recovery.