While I appreciate all the information on what can help couples right after disclosure, I would really appreciate having more information about what couples can do to heal their marriage in the 'in-between" period and even well into recovery. As a betrayed spouse, I am grateful that my husband has re-committed to the marriage, is doing everything to restore trust, and listens well (when I am triggered, relapse into anger, or occasionally feel insecure during physical intimacy). But I feel I need him to 'woo me back' and that seems to take a lot of thought in a very longstanding marriage, where before the affair we were just very comfortable with each other.