Bridging the Gap and Creating Empathy between the Unfaithful and Betrayed Spouse: The Utilization of Attunement Part 1 Attunement: A 2 Part Series Part 1: Bridging the Gap Between the Unfaithful and Betrayed Spouse Part 2: When Both Spouses Feel Abandoned When we allow our inner world to resonate with our partner’s inner world, we can discover a new level of empathy, oneness and overall reconciliation. Dr. Dan Siegel calls this concept "attunement". When we feel heard by our partner, and our inner pain is not only validated, but connected, we feel heard. We feel seen. We feel as though they "get" us, and their own individual walls of justification and resentment begin to come down. Attunement creates movement in recovery work unlike almost any other concept, variable, or tool. When utilized by the unfaithful spouse, the betrayed can feel as though the unfaithful spouse is finally "getting it," and beginning to think of someone else besides just themselves. When both spouses or partners practice attunement, repair work immediately begins to gain significant momentum. This results in a new level of peace and compassion for one another, paving the way for rational, healing conversations and true progress. Continue Your Healing With EMS Online!. Registration Opens Soon. Our Emergency Marital Seminar Online, better known as EMSO, isn’t a one-size-fits-all program for couples. Over decades of experience exclusively in the field of infidelity, our methodology has been honed to better serve couples as they address the betrayal, reconnect as partners and restore their lives. "I would like to say thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your ministry and the materials you have provided as part of EMSO and Married for Life. We, all five couples that started EMSO, have just completed the Married for Life 52-week course. We are now deciding what to study next as a group, as we so value the relationship we have together as couples. With God, with your materials and with each other, we have saved our marriages." — B. Minnesota | EMSO participant, March 2021. Spots fill up quickly, so you won't want to wait to register for EMSO! To learn when registration opens back up, click the button below. Subscribe to Registration Notifications!