Almost four years post discovery. I did Harboring Hope. I found a couples counselor. I saw an individual therapist. I read a dozen books. I'm still broken. Came back to this site after a hard conversation with my husband last night where I verbalized some of the very points made in this video. Such a relief to know it's not just me "not getting over it."

Hi Samuel,

I just wanted to let you know your videos have been such a blessing to myself and my husband. We are 4 1/2 months into recovery. D-day was September 2nd last year. I’m the betrayed partner, my husband the unfaithful. We’ve been married for 38 years and the affair lasted 10 months. The first 3 months were shear hell for me as my husband wasn’t “doing the work”. I really had to put my foot down hard. I’ve been active on the website since the very beginning after D-day and it’s helped me tremendously. My husband started watching your videos about a month ago and I’ve noticed a significant change in him. He has expressed to me that he loves your videos and that they’ve been a tremendous help for him understanding his role unfaithful and mine as the betrayed. He’s never really been an empath and your video about empathy really hit him hard. He finally understands the difference between sympathy and empathy. The light bulb finally lit up!! I’m seeing the changes in him, he’s finally recognizing the work he needs to do and we’re moving in a positive direction, finally! He’s expressed to me that the AR website and the videos have been more helpful than many other sites because with AR, it’s people that have actually experienced infidelity, the “been there done that” thing. I just wanted to let you know you are so appreciated and we’re both thankful you’ve chose to be part of the AR team