Rebuilding Your Relationship after an Affair: Defense Mechanisms of the Betrayed Last time in the studio, Samuel interviewed expert therapist and infidelity survivor, Amanda Asproni, on the defense mechanisms of the unfaithful spouses. Today they continue their interview but shift to defense mechanisms of the betrayed spouse. While the unfaithful are quick to utilize these deflections in an effort to reduce blame, shift focus and take the attention off themselves, the betrayed also utilize their own defense mechanisms. How they utilize them is a bit different and may come from a different mindset than the unfaithful, yet they are still defense mechanisms which must be addressed and helped if the couple has a chance at healing. Join Samuel and Amanda today as they have a pivotal discussion in the healing of couples in crisis due to infidelity or addiction.