After listening to this blog I can't help but wonder if you have met my husband. For over a year I have begged and pleaded and ignored and tried and done all that I know to do and all that the advise on here suggested to do. So we have done this dance where things trail along and I pretend normal thinking and believing that I am pushing to hard, asking for to much, and basically giving away the little small pieces of my heart that are left. Disappointment after disappointment. A little over a month ago our marriage councilor even told my husband that there was nothing left for him to do because until my husband was willing to put forth more effort and truly change and really do the work then we would stay stuck. His exact words are your wife has climbed as far up this mountain as she can alone and she keeps reaching back to you and every time she does she looses a little ground. Please listen to me when I tell you one day she is going to say enough is enough. A person can only deal with so much until they see that it is not their inability to heal or to forgive that is the issue. It is the other persons inability to change and become a person that they can count on and depend on.

Thank you for your work and thank you for your blogs. The work that you do is amazing and I am sure that there are 100's of couples that have been helped because of your willingness.