Q&A What Do I Do with Intense Thoughts during Sexual Interactions?

I’m 20 months into recovery from D-Day #1 and 18 months from D-Day #2. My husband is doing everything I ask to be safe for me and pursue his own healing and the healing of our marriage. We have regularly engaged in sex since D-Day. At first it wasn’t too hard for me but it has progressively gotten worse and worse. I’m to the place now where any sexual interaction brings on horrible intrusive thoughts. Even kissing. I have done 6 sessions of EMDR and I pray every day to get better from this. I start out wanting very much to have sex, to kiss and enjoy connection, but during or after I am barraged by intrusive thoughts that are increasingly torturous. My husband is very understanding and tries his best to comfort me and does not pressure me for anything. I’m feeling hopeless and don’t know what to do. This is something I don’t want to lose and I am devastated. We used to be each other’s only sexual partners and this loss feels like too much for me. Your thoughts would be appreciated.