I keep struggling with knowing whether or not my husband ever stopped loving me. Part of me feels that he did stop loving me because love always acts in the best interest of the other person. It clearly was not in my interest that he hurt me in this way emotionally and that he exposed me to the possibility of sexually transmitted diseases by have sex outside of our marriage. He did not use contraception so my own sexual health was put at risk for what I can only see as his own pleasure and satisfaction during this time. That, to me, is a clear demonstration of his lack of love for me on top of the very intense emotional pain of his betrayal and having been intimate with another woman and spending time with her when he could have been at home with me and our daughter. I have wrestled with this for the last 6 months. I would also like to know how true love, agape love which is meant to be the highest form of love, can be flicked on and off like a switch? Has his love ever gone deeper than the superficial being in love, love? It hurts to feel that my love for him seems to be so much deeper. I told him within days of the discovery of his unfaithfulness, that I welcome this pain if he would come before God in repentance and invite God unto his heart...that his salvation would be worth the pain. I would like to end my questions to you with thanks and praise...that this has been the case. For which I am truly so very thankful. Bless you for your help in this Rick.