Safety in Recovery The hallmark of any healthy recovery is safety. Both spouses have to feel safe in order to rebuild a strong, new marriage from the ashes of the old one. Learn how to make your mate feel safe and why it is so important that you do. Must Reads more less Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity How to Survive Infidelity How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? 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The Power of Small Groups Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity The Problem with Forgiveness Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain 1062 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A How Do I Apply Boundaries and Reconcile? 1/23/2019 Q&A Should My Wayward Spouse Find a New Career to Create Safety? 1/22/2019 Q&A What Boundaries Should We Set around Our Emotions? 1/22/2019 Q&A Should I Give My Mate a Second Chance? 1/16/2019 Q&A How Do We Manage Safe Boundaries with a Child from the Affair? 1/09/2019 Q&A How Can We Create Safety When Anonymity Is a Requirement in 12 Step Programs? 1/09/2019 Q&A Is Mentoring Another Form of Pimping? 12/14/2018 Q&A Is ‘Rubber Necking’ or Blatant Attention to Other Flirtatious Women Part of Infidelity? 12/12/2018 Q&A How Do I Make My Mate Feel Safe After All of This? 12/05/2018 Q&A Why Is My Betrayed Spouse Interrogating Me about Everyone of the Opposite Sex? 12/05/2018 Q&A How Do I Overcome Emotional Abuse from My Mate? 11/28/2018 Q&A What Happens When the Wayward Refuses to Get Help? 11/28/2018 Q&A What Do You Do If Your Spouse Refuses Full Disclosure? 11/26/2018 Q&A How Do I Respond to Relapse? 11/26/2018 Q&A How Can I Convince My Mate Not to Contact Her Affair Partner for Closure? 11/21/2018 Q&A How Can We Create Safety When We Are Apart? 11/21/2018 Q&A What Boundaries Can We Set? 11/01/2018 Q&A What Are You Thoughts on Safety in My Situation? 11/01/2018 Q&A Is This a Red Flag? 11/01/2018 Q&A How Can We Create Safety in This Situation? 11/01/2018 Q&A Should We Separate Due to the Lack of Safety? 11/01/2018 Q&A Should I Disclose More Information for the Sake of the Children? 11/01/2018 Q&A Is It Necessary to Wait until I No Longer Have Feelings for the AP to Reconnect with My Wife? 11/01/2018 Q&A How Can We Set Boundaries with Friends That Aided the Affair? 10/23/2018 Q&A Why Has My Mate Broken My Trust Again? 10/23/2018 Q&A Should We Continue with EMSO If My Mate Won't Break Contact With the Affair Partner? 10/23/2018 Q&A Is Charm Another Form of Pimping Tenderness? 10/23/2018 Q&A How Can We Safely Parent a Child from the Affair? 10/23/2018 Q&A Will Feelings for the Affair Partner Come Back If They Are Not Addressed? 10/17/2018 Q&A What Does 'Working on the Marriage' Look like for the Unfaithful? 10/17/2018 Q&A Should I Be Okay with My Mates Ex-Spouse Staying in Our Home When Family Comes to Visit? 10/17/2018 Q&A Should I Be Open to Reconciliation? 10/10/2018 Q&A How Can We Make Discovery Safe? 9/26/2018 Q&A What Boundaries Can We Set around This Relationship? 9/26/2018 Q&A Why Is My Mate Reacting This Way? 9/26/2018 Q&A What Are Your Thoughts on Contacting the Affair Partner on Behalf of Your Spouse? 9/26/2018 Q&A How Can I Protect Myself from My Mates Unsafe Behaviors? 9/20/2018 Q&A How Can I Approach My Mates Fears in a Healthy Way? 9/20/2018 Q&A What Type of Boundaries Can I Set for My Wife Who Has Had an Affair with Co-Worker? 9/20/2018 Q&A Is It Safe for Us to Reconcile? 9/12/2018 Q&A Why Won't My Mate Create a Safe Space for Me to Heal? 9/12/2018 Q&A Is It Dangerous to Examine Photos and Messages from the Affair Partner? 9/12/2018 Q&A Should We Separate If My Mate Refuses to Break Contact with the Affair Partner? 9/12/2018 Q&A Could This Lack of Safety Be Reason to End Our Relationship? 9/12/2018 Q&A What Should I Do about Physical Abuse? 9/12/2018 Q&A How Can We Move Forward in Healing with the Fear That I May Remember More Information about My Affair? 9/12/2018 Q&A Is There Hope for Recovery in This Type of Situation? 9/12/2018 Q&A How Long Should I Wait for Consistent Honesty? 8/29/2018 Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate's Lying? 8/29/2018 Q&A How Can I Help My Mate Create Safety in Our Recovery? 8/29/2018 Pages« first‹ previous…34567891011…next ›last »