Samuel, I have been following your blog for quite some time. I also took the Harboring Hope course. I am a avid reader of Rick's postings as well.
I tried to make this comment more private, but was unsuccessful in finding a e-mail, or another option of privacy. My husband had a affair over a 3yr time, I discovered it in 2012. That is not what I am contacting you about. I work for several physician's, and approximately a year ago, one of the physician's that I work for discovered her husband had been having a affair. I never shared my story or pain with anyone, I kept extremely private about it. I know that her & her husband were trying to work it out, it was a constant battle of back and forth, she wanted to save the marriage. Last weekend she committed suide. I am devastated, I feel tremendous guilt. There were so many times , I wanted to reach out to her and share my story, that she was not alone. I would see her, and I knew that look , I had the same one . She looked so sad and withdrawn. I thought of just leaving her a note, call me I understand. I never did. I believe story's need to be told , shared, & expressed, so people know they are not alone. Thank you for you and your team for sharing, I have gained a lot of insight and I don't feel alone. I wish I could have done the same for her.
Laura