Affair Recovery

Today Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

Samuel answers a viewer's question on how to alter the way they see their spouse early on in recovery.

The day my husband’s AP showed up at our house and told me that I needed to know “what kind of man I had married” one of my first thoughts was that our marriage was over. How can a marriage survive this type of destruction? I had always said that if my husband cheated I would leave. Some things are simply unforgivable.

After screaming, crying hysterically, and begging for answers my husband moved out of our home and into hers. That was on a Saturday. On Monday I contacted a lawyer about divorce and filled out paperwork to get temporary custody of our 15 year old daughter. A judge granted my request on...

Samuel shares insight into how recovery doesn't gain momentum upon the mountaintops but through the seemingly unremarkable, mundane days spent in the valleys below.

Today Samuel tackles the concern of pushing the unfaithful toward their affair partner.

Detoxing in recovery is not always about the unfaithful spouse and their affair partner or habits, but also about uprooting dysfunction.

Only a few short days after discovery, I started searching the internet for answers. I wasn’t even sure what I was looking for, I just randomly entered search phrases such as “my husband had an affair” and “how can I survive my husband’s affair”. It still boggles my mind that there are literally millions of internet sites to choose from on the topic!  It’s staggering, shocking even and so incredibly sad to realize that adultery is so prevalent. I was haunted by the weight of the numbers. With so many sites to choose from how would I ever get the answers that I was looking for?

Then...

Samuel continues his insight with thoughts on why betrayed spouses may say, "It's never enough for you".

Samuel continues a discussion today with part 2 of emotional intelligence.

Samuel discusses a time when his mentor confronted him on his pride and justification.

Something occurred at work today that took me back to memories of life just after Dday.  I was a basket case for a while. Even after the worst of it I was still very much buried in the weeds of the jungle that is recovery. It was almost impossible to see anything but the weeds. I started making decisions based on being in the weeds.  Some days I would decide I was done, only to decide shortly thereafter I was ready to fight, then later that day or the next it would hit the fan and I would decide I was again done and around it would again go. Some days I wanted my wife dead other days I wanted to save her. It felt like I was...

Samuel answers a viewer's question on dread and how to fight back when you're living in recovery from an affair.

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosing his infidelity and embracing new patterns in life.

Samuel shares part two of his mini series on grieving through recovery from infidelity and how we get stuck in the process.