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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 4 years 11 months ago

Samuel shares thoughts on why we would rather run from our pain than heal from it.

, 4 years 11 months ago

Samuel shares pointed thoughts on rediscovering ourselves after infidelity.

, 4 years 12 months ago

Samuel discusses personal battles we all face in recovery.

, 5 years 4 days ago

Samuel shares a humorous but life changing principle of communication post infidelity.

, 5 years 6 days ago

Samuel tackles a touchy subject: helping the unfaithful spouse forgive.

, 5 years 1 week ago
originally posted on thatericalper.com by unnamed source

Today I am sharing with you something that someone sent to me after my dad died years ago. I have never forgotten it, and I share it with you today for encouragement wherever you are within the waves and wreckage of infidelity.

(This was originally posted on the website thatericalper.com by someone unnamed)

"My friend just died.
I don't know what to do."

A lot of people responded...

, 5 years 1 week ago

Samuel shares a personal story of significant healing.

, 5 years 1 week ago

Samuel discusses the need for the unfaithful spouse to have a team around them.

, 5 years 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses the journey of the unfaithful spouse and compassion.

, 5 years 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares truths he's learned on how he forgave himself and chose to find healing.

, 5 years 3 weeks ago

Samuel interviews Tullian Tchividjian about his personal journey before, during, and after infidelity.

, 5 years 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight he and Samantha have used to heal both their hearts.

, 5 years 1 month ago

Samuel shares a tool he used and still uses in healing from his own infidelity.

, 5 years 1 month ago

Samuel shares essential and necessary principles of safety for the unfaithful.

, 5 years 1 month ago

Samuel shares do's and don'ts to potentially win back the betrayed spouse.

, 5 years 1 month ago

Samuel discusses the journey couples go through when trying to heal from infidelity or addiction.

, 5 years 1 month ago

Samuel discusses how every unfaithful spouse has a self destruct button and how to avoid it.

, 5 years 1 month ago
affair recovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Learning-How-To-Be-Alone-i had no idea that there was a difference between being alone and being abandoned

I stink at being alone. I have never been alone; not even my time in my mother's womb was in solitude—I am a twin. I have always shared birthdays, rooms, busses, spotlights, cookies, bathrooms, etc.

When I first arrived at college, I remember sitting in my new dorm room by myself. My soon-to-be roommate would never show. Apparently she got cold feet and withdrew from the university. I remember for the first time in my life having a very primal...

, 5 years 1 month ago

Samuel shares insight into why we find ourselves alone as unfaithful spouses.

, 5 years 1 month ago

Samuel shares six gifts we can give ourselves to help heal from infidelity.

, 5 years 1 month ago
one of the greatest things you can do to help others is not just to share and give what you have, but to help them discover what they have within themselves to help themselves-rita zahara

This quote flashed on the screen behind the minister in church today. He'd already said he was not going to comment on any of the quotes behind him as he had his own schtick to say. When I read this, he lost me for a few moments as I took in the wisdom within the printed words.

And then it occurred to me—I have attempted to pour out the effect my husband's betrayals have had on me in hope that you, the reader, might...

, 5 years 2 months ago

Samuel shares insights from his own personal journey with despair and hopelessness on how to make it to the other side.

, 5 years 2 months ago

Samuel shares the seven biggest pitfalls couples are struggling with in 2019.

, 5 years 2 months ago
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When we entered into recovery from infidelity, there was a long season of disbelief—even though I was telling the truth. Granted, after what I had done to my marriage, I didn't deserve to be believed; nevertheless, it is a very disheartening and discouraging time.

After discovery, I knew I had hit what many would call "rock bottom." I was so tired of my lies, my life, and myself—so I came clean. I told the entire truth about what I had done. For the first time in my life, it felt good to...

, 5 years 2 months ago

It's all too common for women to have to navigate the self-condemning voice of insecurity. And although all of us are susceptible to these narratives, a betrayed woman especially has to fight against the negative messages she might believe about herself in the aftermath of her mate's infidelity. In today's video, you will hear an approach from one of our EMS panel specialists for identifying and moving through personal insecurities and walk away with tools for reclaiming self-acceptance. We hope that you will be encouraged to take a deeper look within as you allow the pain to be transformed.

, 5 years 2 months ago

Samuel interviews Ryan and Jessica who both were unfaithful in their own ways and share how they were able to forgive and heal.

, 5 years 2 months ago
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Remember Inside Out – the Disney Pixar movie where each character represents different parts of a little girl's emotions? Each emotion – or character in the film – vies for attention and control inside her mind. It's a cute idea, and one steeped in reality.

Riley Anderson is born in a small town in Minnesota. Within her mind's Headquarters, five personifications of her basic emotions — Joy,...

, 5 years 2 months ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-the other woman Dear Betrayed Wife,

I am the other woman.

By admitting that, I know I am the one person that truly and most easily deserves your hatred and your spite. I know I am a source of your anger and contempt. I am a huge source of your pain. Essentially, I am the person that is largely responsible for the ache in your heart that seems like it will never go away.

I am quite certain you must periodically wish that I had never existed. Of course, I am making a huge presumption; I can hardly even...

, 5 years 2 months ago

Samuel interviews MJ Denis once more, discussing how the betrayed spouse can help soothe themselves when the wayward spouse won't get help of their own.

, 5 years 2 months ago
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I'm not the one who cheated,
why do I feel so ashamed?
Am I going crazy?
Why is this so hard for me?
Is healing actually possible?
Is forgiveness what I think it is?
What's normal when it comes to sex?

As I began to wrap my head around the betrayal in my marriage, I was bombarded with questions like...

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