Affair Recovery

Yes? Congratulations!!

Bet you didn’t expect that statement after revealing what felt like your spouse tearing your heart out of your chest and stomping on it, did you?

I remember back to D-Day, the devastation, the uncertainty, and the pain. I remember vomiting until there was nothing left to vomit. I remember the hopelessness. I remember the suicidal thoughts.

I remember the advice and guidance. God told me to forgive. My friends told me to dump the skank and go get laid. My parents told me to protect the children. My pastor told me to pray. My lawyer told me to preserve evidence....

Samuel does a follow up to his first video on his journey to faith, addressing disappointment.

John Gray wrote Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus in 1992 and subtitled it “A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationship.” The book highlights the differences between the way men and women respond to stress and stressful situations. With more than 50 million copies sold Gray obviously hit on something at the heart of relationship problems:

Men and women think, react and respond differently.

The truth of that fact was front and center for me on D-day and in the months and years since. I would be screaming in anger and pain while my husband would...

Samuel shares more about he and Samantha's past and how early on, he was terrified of himself.

Samuel discusses how soon to get to expert help after discovering infidelity in your relationship.

Samuel tackles the misconception that since recovery is a noble thing to do, it should be easy.

Samuel shares insight regarding his early belief that God was done with him and would never use him again.

Samuel answers a viewer's question on some of the pitfalls of forgiving your spouse too soon.

Samuel breaks down a tool in recovery that will help diffuse conflict and restore intimacy much quicker.

Samuel shares a hard hitting recovery principle not only for infidelity recovery but general marriage healing as well.

Today Samuel shares insight on how to stay away from bitterness and how to to avoid the pitfalls of regret.

Samuel helps the betrayed spouse deal with regret and fear.

Today Samuel uses an analogy to discuss how to allow the process of recovery to mold not only yourself but your spouse as well.

My husband’s affair was disclosed to me on a Friday, and on the following Tuesday, we were tucked into a cozy loveseat in the office of a local therapist recommended by our pastor.  I was desperate for someone to tell me we could make it through this wasteland my life had become since the nuclear revelation of D-Day.  The counselor asked us in a very soothing and pleasant voice why we were in his office that day.  My husband informed him that we were having marital difficulties and then confessed to the therapist that he had been having an affair. This gentleman was a kind-hearted soul...