Affair Recovery

Samuel discusses the effect of going through the motions in recovery for both spouses.

Samuel answers a viewers question regarding the unfaithful spouse and the direction of recovery.

Samuel shares a few ways we sabotage our own healing.

Samuel answers a viewer's question about how to handle anniversaries in recovery both for the marriage and recovery.

Samuel shares insight on how the unfaithful spouse can help the betrayed spouse heal faster.

Samuel shares empowering responses for betrayed spouses who feel stuck in their situation.

A man’s self-image is important. The world teaches us that men are supposed to be strong, courageous, wise, and unemotional.

I was a husband, a father, a provider. I was “tough”...

When the world hit me I hit back. 

When I was in pain I rubbed dirt in the wound and got back on the field. I didn't have any need for emotions (except anger). I was in control. I was respected and wise.

Or at least I thought I was.

Then D-day hit. I cried for days. I lost 20 lbs in a month, threw up more times than I can remember. I was...

Samuel shares about the day Samantha informed him she wanted a separation and what it did for their recovery.

Samuel discusses the common struggles the unfaithful spouse has with during their affair.

Samuel shares insight into a dark moment early on in recovery and how to make it through similar dark moments in the recovery process.

Samuel answers a question from a viewer on what if my spouse doesn't respond to boundaries.

Samuel shares practical insight into how to handle and resist triggers in recovery.

As I wrote in my previous blog article, “Is He Worth It?” my husband is capable of both enormous deception and immense change. So the other day when he contributed to a trigger I could have sat and fumed about why I put up with his actions. But instead I did something that I’ve been doing for three years post D-day. I acted intentionally. After asking myself for the hundredth time why I put up with him I then answered myself for the hundredth time with my personal recovery mantra:

My husband is worth another chance.

My husband is capable of great change.

I’m stronger than I think, braver than I...

Samuel offers perspective into handling and processing fear as an unfaithful or betrayed spouse.