Recovery Fundamentals Start with the basics when first walking the road to recovery. Developing a systematic plan for recovery will enable you to stick to your basic recovery principles even when things get tough. Must Reads more less Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors The Power of Small Groups Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) Surviving Infidelity: What Do We Tell the Kids? Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? 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Healing After An Affair How to Survive Infidelity Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery 1218 Resources Type Title Posted Wanting to Be Wanted 5/04/2022 Tony & Debbie Mentor Video 5/01/2022 Limerence: Infatuation and How It Works 4/27/2022 Q&A What Is the Best Way to Discuss the Questions That Most Wayward Spouses Get from the Betrayed? 4/20/2022 Q&A How Do I Let Myself Be Happy Again? 4/08/2022 Q&A How Do We Handle Defensiveness? 4/08/2022 Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again? 4/08/2022 Q&A How Can I Convince Her to Engage More in the Group Therapy? 4/08/2022 Q&A What Can I Do to Support Him but Also Be Heard? 4/06/2022 Q&A How Can I Communicate So That He Does Not Feel Condemned? 4/06/2022 Q&A How Do You Heal the Relationship with the Betrayed’s Extended Family? 4/06/2022 Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses? 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Love Addiction 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Emotional Affair 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Wanting the Marriage and the Affair 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Sexual Addiction 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Fallen in Love 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs 4/06/2022 What Is A Forgiveness Letter? 3/16/2022 Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Do We Create a Shared View of Our Relationship When We Have No Valid Timelines to Reference? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Long Does It Take for Desire for My Mate to Return after Severing Ties with My Affair Partners? 3/10/2022 Q&A When an Intrusive Thought Occurs, How Do I Know the Difference between Suppressing and Ignoring That Thought versus Not Giving It Any Airtime, Capturing It, and Redirecting My Thinking to Something Else? 2/02/2022 Q&A How Can I Get To a More Balanced Psyche? 2/02/2022 Announcing NEW Infidelity Video Blog: Songs for the Soul 1/26/2022 Q&A What Do We Do When We Both Cheated, If My Betrayal Was ‘Worse’ than His? 1/18/2022 Q&A What Do I Do When the Betrayed Spouse Shuts Me Out and Doesn’t Want to Talk about His Pain, Unless Forced? 1/18/2022 Q&A Why Is He Okay as Long as I Don’t Talk about It? How Can We Get past This If He’s Unwilling to Answer Questions? 12/17/2021 Q&A At What Point Is It Unhealthy to Be Avoiding Events Because the Affair Partner May Go or Avoiding Places Because They Once Went There Together? 12/17/2021 Social Shame: Four Ways to Stay In It 12/13/2021 Social Shame: Surviving Infidelity Isn’t Enough 12/08/2021 Social Shame: Have You Been Dishonored? 12/01/2021 Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it 11/24/2021 Q&A What Can I Ask My Spouse to Do That Also Requires the Same Amount of Effort in the Process of Recovery? 11/19/2021 The Use and Abuse of the Polygraph 11/10/2021 Q&A What Practical Steps Can I Take To Help Me Overcome the Overwhelming Moments in Recovery? 10/07/2021 Q&A Did I Do the Right Thing by Sharing My Trigger and How Do I Handle This Situation in the Future? 10/07/2021 Q&A How Can We Make Progress and How Can I Trust Him? 10/07/2021 Q&A Can You Provide Clarification on Not Asking Relational Comparison Questions? 9/08/2021 Q&A Where Do I Go After EMS Online? 8/17/2021 Q&A Should I Tell the Affair Partner’s Wife about the Affair? 8/17/2021 Q&A Do You Recommend Joining Harboring Hope or Hope For Healing after Completing EMS Online? 7/22/2021 Q&A Can You Explain Personal Responsibility in Regards to Infidelity? 7/22/2021 Q&A Can You Help Me Put a Little Light On Where I Am Stuck? 7/22/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With His Advice without Feeling He Is Criticizing Me? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With the Physical Distance between Me and My Husband during Recovery? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Do I Reconcile with the Affair Partner Who Is My Sister? 7/08/2021 Q&A Is It Okay to Ask to the the 40 Cost Assignment from EMS Weekend Again? 7/08/2021 Q&A I'm Confused about the Cycle of Grace and Performance Management. Can You Please Explain? 6/17/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With My Spouse Not Going All-In on Recovery? 6/17/2021 Pages« first‹ previous123456789…next ›last »
