Q&A How do I Get Away From Pretend Normal? Video Restricted to Recovery Library members. Question My husband and I have been doing this "dance" of talk just enough to get everyone to a happy place again, then back to pretend normal. I believe we can be a couple that is transparent, intimate, and filled with trust. He had multiple affairs, and I am still here because I believe in him and US. But I am scared to "rock the boat", and I do not have the confidence to jump in for fear of the raw pain that will follow along with the afterma…To continue reading, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to read the full article.Sections: Recovery LibraryLeslie and John's callsRL_Category: For The Hurt SpouseHandling DiscoveryRecovery FundamentalsSafety in RecoveryRL_Media Type: Audio