Q&A What do I do When Intrusive Thoughts Cause me to Pull Away?

Question

What do you do when feelings for your unfaithful spouse intrude and make you not want to hold hands, or kiss, or hug, etc. You want to but then when you do it, the intrusive thoughts come in and make it hurt worse than if you had just kept your distance. Its not good that my spouse looks up from that and sees it in my eyes (I'm looking in the distance) or I kind of avoid them a little when getting ready to leave for work, or I'm brushing my hand through her ...