Since discovery of my husband's affair. I find him truly repulsive. He would fly down a college girl friend every month and meet her at a hotel for sex.
Looking at him makes me queasy as I see him as a sleaze and liar. He is truly remorseful and is willing to do anything to save our marriage.
We have small children and I am trying to wrap my head around his disgraceful behavior. I fear that I can only see him now as the slime he has been for the last two years...I can't imagine ever seeing him in another light. Is this normal? Discovery was four months ago and I have found myself wanting to just keep my distance from him.

As we went thru the EMS weekend which was truly remarkably raw and transparent.
This was the first time my wife has ever admitted to doing this repulsive act.It might have been a one night drunken stuper which she had exposed and let her minor children witness ,but I still have a hard time understanding the lack of respect for her family and me.
It has been a few months since the act occured and we still live apart but interacting as we both have settled on saving a troubled marriage.She says she wants a New as I will only do a new marriage,it seems as some old responses to acts or lack there of from me flame old behavior and it scares the heck out of me.
It seems as she wants to lessen the effect by just saying it was only this and she is treated as though it was a year or so affair?
It seems as if it would be easier if it were .Alcohol was always to blame for these passive aggresive outbreaks and I am wondering if she is truly willing to do anything to restore our new marriage im thinking of asking if she is willing not to drink to keep us together and if she balks or says anything different I am not sure I can stay in this Marriage as it might blow up again and I do not accept this excuse anymore.

We are in MFL 6 -- The Protest Polka.
I find that we frequently engage in this manner of argument.
Unfortunately, the audio portion becomes inaudible about half way through the video.
Can you please comment on the steps needed to help address this manner of argument?

We have completed EMSO.
After living with the infidelity in our lives, I am worried about a friend of mine.
Her husband is a doctor, with large blocks of time that are completely unaccounted for.
He goes out of town to conferences, unaccompanied by his wife and 2 toddlers.
He recently hired a very sexy and beautiful office manager, who is a "newlywed."
He stated that he needed to hire someone who was beautiful -- in order to help with marketing of the business.
She found flirting text/sext messages on his phone from a nurse at work -- who admires him and frequently works with him. She was upset and threatened to walk out. He cried and told her it meant nothing, and that texting only happened once when he was drunk at a conference.
I'm worried that there could be more. Should I say something? How do I approach this?