Recovery Fundamentals

Start with the basics when first walking the road to recovery. Developing a systematic plan for recovery will enable you to stick to your basic recovery principles even when things get tough.

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Video icon Q&A What Can We Do Differently?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Move Forward When I’m Not Sure He Can Admit to Himself What His Demons Are?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Forgive Myself for Marrying Someone While Choosing to Essentially Re-Marry Him?
Video icon Q&A How Do My Wife and I Avoid Pretending Normal and Actually Tackle the Issue of Infidelity?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now?
Video icon Q&A Am I Depriving Myself of True Healing in the Long Term If We Are Using This Method to Cope?
Video icon Q&A How Do You Know If You Are Grieving or If You Are Wallowing?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Channel My Own Genuine Positivity and Stop Being Concerned or Insulted by His Behaviors or Attitudes?
Video icon Q&A Where Does a Failed Polygraph Leave Us in Regards to a Timeline in Recovery?
Video icon Q&A Can You Help Us Understand Our Love Language Differences?
Video icon Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior?
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Video icon Q&A What Is the Best Way to Discuss the Questions That Most Wayward Spouses Get from the Betrayed?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Let Myself Be Happy Again?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Handle Defensiveness?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Convince Her to Engage More in the Group Therapy?
Video icon Q&A What Can I Do to Support Him but Also Be Heard?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Communicate So That He Does Not Feel Condemned?
Video icon Q&A How Do You Heal the Relationship with the Betrayed’s Extended Family?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses?
Video icon Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Create a Shared View of Our Relationship When We Have No Valid Timelines to Reference?
Video icon Q&A How Long Does It Take for Desire for My Mate to Return after Severing Ties with My Affair Partners?
Video icon Q&A When an Intrusive Thought Occurs, How Do I Know the Difference between Suppressing and Ignoring That Thought versus Not Giving It Any Airtime, Capturing It, and Redirecting My Thinking to Something Else?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Get To a More Balanced Psyche?
Video icon Q&A What Do We Do When We Both Cheated, If My Betrayal Was ‘Worse’ than His?
Video icon Q&A What Do I Do When the Betrayed Spouse Shuts Me Out and Doesn’t Want to Talk about His Pain, Unless Forced?
Video icon Q&A Why Is He Okay as Long as I Don’t Talk about It? How Can We Get past This If He’s Unwilling to Answer Questions?
Video icon Q&A At What Point Is It Unhealthy to Be Avoiding Events Because the Affair Partner May Go or Avoiding Places Because They Once Went There Together?
Video icon Q&A What Can I Ask My Spouse to Do That Also Requires the Same Amount of Effort in the Process of Recovery?
Video icon Q&A What Practical Steps Can I Take To Help Me Overcome the Overwhelming Moments in Recovery?
Video icon Q&A Did I Do the Right Thing by Sharing My Trigger and How Do I Handle This Situation in the Future?
Video icon Q&A How Can We Make Progress and How Can I Trust Him?
Video icon Q&A Can You Provide Clarification on Not Asking Relational Comparison Questions?
Video icon Q&A Where Do I Go After EMS Online?
Video icon Q&A Should I Tell the Affair Partner’s Wife about the Affair?
Video icon Q&A Do You Recommend Joining Harboring Hope or Hope For Healing after Completing EMS Online?
Video icon Q&A Can You Explain Personal Responsibility in Regards to Infidelity?
Video icon Q&A Can You Help Me Put a Little Light On Where I Am Stuck?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Deal With His Advice without Feeling He Is Criticizing Me?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Deal With the Physical Distance between Me and My Husband during Recovery?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Reconcile with the Affair Partner Who Is My Sister?
Video icon Q&A Is It Okay to Ask to the the 40 Cost Assignment from EMS Weekend Again?
Video icon Q&A I'm Confused about the Cycle of Grace and Performance Management. Can You Please Explain?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Deal With My Spouse Not Going All-In on Recovery?
Video icon Q&A What Are the Effective Ways of Grieving and How Do I Know Which One Is Best For Me?
Video icon Q&A Are We Trying to Recover Too Fast?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Help Him Heal and Yet Remain Open and Honest with Him about the Facts and Not What His Feelings about the Facts Are?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Continue to Try and Get along without Ever Speaking about the Affair or Any Problems?