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4574 Resources : All Categories

Type	Title	Posted
	Q&A How Do We Create a Shared View of Our Relationship When We Have No Valid Timelines to Reference?	3/10/2022
	Q&A Why Was It Easy for Him to Be Nice to Everyone but Me, His Wife?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Do I Emotionally Connect with Someone Who Treats Me This Way?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Long Does It Take for Desire for My Mate to Return after Severing Ties with My Affair Partners?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Long Should I Accept and Validate His Exaggerated Reactions as a Result of My Previously Reckless Behaviors?	2/17/2022
	Q&A Do You Agree It’s Necessary to Re-Establish No Contact?	2/17/2022
	Q&A Why Don’t I Respect My Husband?	2/17/2022
	Q&A How Should I Go About Trying to Get to Ground Zero?	2/17/2022
	Q&A How Do I Get past the Affair Partner Continually Sending Me Photos and Descriptive Dialog?	2/17/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do When My Partner Is in Denial about His Infidelity?	2/17/2022
	Q&A Should a Wayward Spouse Be Allowed to Have Friends of the Opposite Gender?	2/17/2022
	Q&A How do I Heal?	2/17/2022
	Q&A Is He Just Not Interested in Me or Did He Magically Figure Out How to Treat a Woman?	2/17/2022
	Q&A When an Intrusive Thought Occurs, How Do I Know the Difference between Suppressing and Ignoring That Thought versus Not Giving It Any Airtime, Capturing It, and Redirecting My Thinking to Something Else?	2/02/2022
	Q&A Am I Being Closed Minded?	2/02/2022
	Q&A How Should I Deal With Characteristics That I Do Not Possess, Yet Seem to Have Been Sought after by My Spouse in the Affair Partners?	2/02/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do to Protect My, and My Children’s, Heart?	2/02/2022
	Q&A How Can I Get To a More Balanced Psyche?	2/02/2022
	Q&A Is It Wrong to Feel a Sense of a Sexual Revolution, after His Affair?	2/02/2022
	Announcing NEW Infidelity Video Blog: Songs for the Soul	1/26/2022
	Q&A What Do We Do When We Both Cheated, If My Betrayal Was ‘Worse’ than His?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Am I Choosing Closeness over Intimacy When I Don’t Let My Mate Know About Intrusive Thoughts When We Are Lovemaking?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Will the Betrayed’s Irritability Ever Go Away?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Should We Tell the Kids If They Ask Why Dad Is Living in the Basement?	1/18/2022
	Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Is This Finally Enough to Divorce and End Recovery Work?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Type of Recovery Program Does My Husband Need?	1/18/2022
	Q&A How Can I Get My Emotionally Unavailable Husband to Walk toward the Storm Instead of Away?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do When the Betrayed Spouse Shuts Me Out and Doesn’t Want to Talk about His Pain, Unless Forced?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Are My Expectations Too High?	12/17/2021
	Q&A What Do We Do When the Affair Partner Refuses to Cooperate about the Child?	12/17/2021
	Q&A How Can We Set Boundaries If They Keep Being Disregarded and Violated?	12/17/2021
	Q&A Should I Change Churches or Should I Just Get Over It since It Was All in His Fantasies?	12/17/2021
	Q&A What Should I Do With the Saved Messages between My Husband and His Affair Partners?	12/17/2021
	Q&A Why Is He Okay as Long as I Don’t Talk about It? How Can We Get past This If He’s Unwilling to Answer Questions?	12/17/2021
	Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand the Importance of Knowing the ‘Why’ and Also How to Can I Help Him See That It’s Not an Excuse or Blaming Anything?	12/17/2021
	Q&A Should We Abstain from Sex at This Point in Our Recovery?	12/17/2021
	Q&A At What Point Is It Unhealthy to Be Avoiding Events Because the Affair Partner May Go or Avoiding Places Because They Once Went There Together?	12/17/2021
	Social Shame: Four Ways to Stay In It	12/13/2021
	Social Shame: Surviving Infidelity Isn’t Enough	12/08/2021
	Social Shame: Have You Been Dishonored?	12/01/2021
	Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it	11/24/2021
	Q&A Why Is My Wayward Spouse Playing the Victim in Our Relationship?	11/19/2021
	Q&A Can His Expressed Feelings of Love Be True When He Was Deceiving and Betraying Me?	11/19/2021
	Q&A How Much Should I Allow My Hurt Spouse to Vent and Control Conversations?	11/19/2021
	Q&A What Can I Ask My Spouse to Do That Also Requires the Same Amount of Effort in the Process of Recovery?	11/19/2021
	The Use and Abuse of the Polygraph	11/10/2021
	Q&A Should My Unfaithful Spouse Make a Symbolic Sacrifice to Help My Healing?	11/04/2021
	Q&A What Type of Dilemma Am I In?	11/04/2021
	Q&A How Do I Help My Betrayed Wife with Her Depression That Has Escalated Dramatically since Discovery?	11/04/2021