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Type	Title	Posted
	Q&A Why Does My Mate Still Want Me to Obey Him after His Affair?	6/14/2022
	Q&A How Do We Give This a Shot If We Don’t Reengage on Some Level?	6/14/2022
	Q&A Could It Be Limerance When the Affair Partner Is an Old Flame?	6/14/2022
	Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now?	6/14/2022
	Q&A Am I Depriving Myself of True Healing in the Long Term If We Are Using This Method to Cope?	6/14/2022
	Why Couples Fail After an Affair \| Part 3 - Hiding in Denial	6/08/2022
	Why Couples Fail After an Affair \| Part 2 - Not Getting It	6/01/2022
	Q&A How Do You Know If You Are Grieving or If You Are Wallowing?	5/24/2022
	Q&A How Do I Handle Knowing the ‘Who’ Matters More to Me than the ‘What’?	5/24/2022
	Q&A When Will the Constant Feeling That Another Betrayal Is Right around the Corner Fade?	5/24/2022
	Q&A How Can I Channel My Own Genuine Positivity and Stop Being Concerned or Insulted by His Behaviors or Attitudes?	5/24/2022
	Q&A Where Does a Failed Polygraph Leave Us in Regards to a Timeline in Recovery?	5/24/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do If My Spouse Works with Their Affair Partner?	5/24/2022
	Q&A Can You Help Us Understand Our Love Language Differences?	5/24/2022
	Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior?	5/24/2022
	Q&A Is It Possible There Is a 7th Type of Affair?	5/24/2022
	Are You Vulnerable to an Affair? Part III: Individual Vulnerability	5/18/2022
	Are You Vulnerable to an Affair? Part II: Marital Vulnerability	5/18/2022
	Are You Vulnerable to an Affair?	5/18/2022
	Tony & Debbie Mentor Video	5/01/2022
	Limerence: Infatuation and How It Works	4/27/2022
	Q&A How Do I Continue Supporting Her While Taking Care of My Heart and Mental Health?	4/20/2022
	Q&A Why Can’t I Give My Spouse Full Disclosure?	4/20/2022
	Q&A Is It OK for the Wayward Spouse to Keep in Touch with Affair Partners from the past That Happened Years before Us?	4/20/2022
	Q&A What Is the Best Way to Discuss the Questions That Most Wayward Spouses Get from the Betrayed?	4/20/2022
	Q&A How Do I Let Myself Be Happy Again?	4/08/2022
	Q&A How Do We Handle Defensiveness?	4/08/2022
	Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again?	4/08/2022
	Q&A How Can I Convince Her to Engage More in the Group Therapy?	4/08/2022
	Q&A How Could He Go from One Affair to Another?	4/08/2022
	Q&A What Can I Do to Support Him but Also Be Heard?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do I Get Over This Betrayal?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Can I Ever Get Over His Believing He Loved The Affair Partner?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Can I Communicate So That He Does Not Feel Condemned?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do We Handle Disclosure When My Infidelity Was So Long Ago and I Can’t Remember All the Details?	4/06/2022
	Q&A As a Betrayed Husband Is It Unrealistic to Want My Wife to Pursue Me Physically?	4/06/2022
	Q&A What If the Hurt Spouse Needs More Information than the Wayward Spouse Is Willing to Give?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do I Get past the Uncontrollable Fear of This Happening Again or That It Is Still Happening?	4/06/2022
	Q&A Can You Please Give Me a Detailed Outline of What a Structured Separation Is and How to Implement It?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do You Heal the Relationship with the Betrayed’s Extended Family?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do We Continue in This Process When Only One of Us Is Committed?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Much Harder Will Our Recovery Be in This Situation?	3/25/2022
	Q&A How Can I Put In the Effort Needed on My End for Intimacy without Getting the Same Failed Result?	3/25/2022
	What Is A Forgiveness Letter?	3/16/2022
	Q&A How Can I Trust Him Again?	3/10/2022
	Q&A If My Spouse Felt So Much Guilt and Shame the First Time, Why Did They Do It Again?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Should I Handle My Spouse Threatening to Harm Me?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Was He Able to Do a 180 Turn on Discovery?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance?	3/10/2022