Why They Did It

The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty.

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Video icon Q&A How Can I Know My Mate Didn't Just Prefer Sex With Someone Else?
Video icon Q&A Was This Limerence or Something More?
Video icon Q&A Is It Common for the Wayward Spouse to Not Know 'Why' This Far in Recovery?
Video icon Q&A What Attracts a Younger Man to an Older, Unattractive Woman?
Video icon Q&A Is There a Way to Determine the Difference between an Affair Being Motivated by Revenge as Opposed to the Wayward Spouse Justifying an Affair or Are They One in the Same?
Video icon Q&A How Can Any Person Not Know Why They Have Done Something?
Video icon Q&A How Is It Possible to Compartmentalize the Way My Husband Did?
Video icon Q&A Could His Early Experience Have Played a Part in His Affair and His Attitude Toward Sex Now?
Video icon Q&A If Our Marriage Was So Wonderful, Why Did He Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is It Possible to Feel No Shame or Guilt?
Video icon Q&A How Could Childhood Sexual Abuse Lead My Husband to Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is This Type of Acting Out Not Part of What We Call a Mid-life Crisis?
Video icon Q&A Was Her Behavior Justified?
Video icon Q&A Do Men Actually Not Engage Their Heart?
Video icon Q&A How Can a Straight Woman Have a Same-Sex Affair?
Video icon Q&A Can You Explain to Me Why They Felt the Need to Have Sex Given Their Anxiety?
Video icon Q&A What Happens If My Spouse Won't Acknowledge the Relationship as an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Could I Have Broken the Cycle Before My Spouse Strayed?
Video icon Q&A Does My Husband Really Have Only a Sex Addiction?
Video icon Q&A What Do Same Sex Encounters Mean?
Video icon Q&A Why Has My Husband Re-written Our Marital History?
Video icon Q&A What Kind of Affair Was It?
Video icon Q&A Why Is My Wayward Husband Having a Difficult Time with 'Why'?
Video icon Q&A Is This Normal Affair Behavior or a Sexual Addiction?
Video icon Q&A Is There a Difference between Reason and Justification?
Video icon Q&A What Kind of Affair Did My Husband Have and What Does It Mean for Recovery?
Video icon Q&A Is My Husband Normal, Sick, or Was He Temporarily Insane?
Video icon Q&A Do Serious Health Issues Impact a Spouses Decision to Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A What Do I Do When My Wayward Spouse See's the Affair as My Fault?
Video icon Q&A Is It Possible That She Believed Her Emotional Affair Was Not Infidelity?
Video icon Q&A Does It Matter If Someone Forced His Hand on Their Breast or It His Did It on His Own?
Video icon Q&A What Might Be the Reasons for My Ex-Wife's Relational Pattern?
Video icon Q&A Is the Affair a Result of My Mates Addiction Issues?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Gain a Better Perspective on What I've Done?
Video icon Q&A What Do You Do If Your Spouse Truly Believes They Do Not Have a Problem or Addiction?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Wrap My Head around This When Nothing Seems to Fit Our Situation?
Video icon Q&A Why Did My Mate Take the Affair Partner to the Same Places He Has Taken Me?
Video icon Q&A Did My Spouse Affair Down?
Video icon Q&A Why Can't My Spouse See How They Could've Prevented Their Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Could My Wife Feel so Connected with the Affair Partner and Not Think the Sex Was Better with Them?
Video icon Q&A How Does Sexual Imprinting in a Women during Her Teenage Years Impact Her Desire to Be Intimate in a Marriage Compared to with an Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A Is My Husband's Argument Right?
Video icon Q&A Do You Agree with My Counselor?
Video icon Q&A Where Did the Weakness to Have an Affair Come From?
Video icon Q&A Is His Guilt Truly about the Affair or about Being Caught?
Video icon Q&A Am I Using the Affair Partners Choices as a Cop-Out?
Video icon Q&A How Can My Mate Prefer Anything about the Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A Why Did My Mate Choose to See the Affair Partner One Last Time?
Video icon Q&A Did God Really Lead My Spouse to Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Are My Mates Actions a Result of Poor Self Esteem?