Why They Did It

The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty.

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Video icon Q&A How Will She Ever Know Why She Really Had the Affair?
Video icon Q&A Why Isn't More Time Spent Discovering Why They Had an Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Can You Love Your Partner and Still Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is My Spouse's Financial Infidelity Linked to Their Affair or Is It a Separate Issue?
Video icon Q&A Why Would Someone Put Such a Cherished Relationship at Risk with an Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Could He So Easily Forget the Pain He Caused?
Video icon Q&A What Makes Someone Vulnerable to a Previous Romantic Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Can the Unfaithful Spouse Love Me and Have an Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Could He Possibly Call What He Had with the Affair Partner ‘Love'?
Video icon Q&A Who Falls in True Love with an Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Much of This Developmental Trauma Contributed to Me Having an Affair in Adulthood?
Video icon Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair?
Video icon Q&A Did My Wife Need to Justify Her Behavior in Cheating on Me?
Video icon Q&A Will I Ever Accept His Reasons for the Affairs?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Address Her Readiness to Engage With Someone So Despicable Versus Her Resistance to Reconnect Intimately With Me?
Video icon Q&A How Much Does Alcohol Play a Factor in a One Night Stand?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Know if Our Cheating Spouse Is a Sex Addict, Has a Personality Disorder, or if It Is Something Else?
Video icon Q&A How Can Someone Love You Even During the Betrayal?
Video icon Q&A Can My Wife Be In Limerence Twice with the Same Man or Is It Love?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Navigate Seeing the Emotional Part of the Affair Differently?
Video icon Q&A Why Would He Go Back to the Same Person He Thinks Is So Nasty?
Video icon Q&A How Did ADHD and Other Factors Like Depression and Anxiety Contribute to My Affairs?
Video icon Q&A Can You Elaborate More on Type Four Affairs?
Video icon Q&A Is It My Fault That They Did What They Did?
Video icon Q&A Do You Think My Spouse Is Being Honest about Why They Stayed in the Affair for So Long?
Video icon Q&A Do We Have a Chance at Recovery If He Is Unable to Understand How Trauma Can Impact Me?
Video icon Q&A Why Does He Tell Me I Am the Only Girl and Will Be Faithful When He Continues to See Other Women?
Video icon Q&A Can You Further Explain How to Determine and Address What Could Have Led to My Husband’s Affair?
Video icon Q&A Does This Type of Repeated Behavior Indicate an Addiction or Wanting Both the Marriage and the Affair, or Both?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Explain That My Childhood Trauma Triggered My Actions and Doesn’t Remove My Accountability Even If I Did Disassociate?
Video icon Q&A If He Was Having an Affair to Get Some Sort of Thrill or Feeling from That Person Why Did He Constantly Want My Attention Too?
Video icon Q&A Could It Be Limerance When the Affair Partner Is an Old Flame?
Video icon Q&A Is It Possible There Is a 7th Type of Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Could He Go from One Affair to Another?
Video icon Q&A If My Spouse Felt So Much Guilt and Shame the First Time, Why Did They Do It Again?
Video icon Q&A Why Was It Easy for Him to Be Nice to Everyone but Me, His Wife?
Video icon Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand the Importance of Knowing the ‘Why’ and Also How to Can I Help Him See That It’s Not an Excuse or Blaming Anything?
Video icon Q&A Why Did My Husband Have Such a Seemingly Lame Affair?
Video icon Q&A Do Men Always Want to Have Sex with Other Women?
Video icon Q&A Why Would He Hire This Particular Escort?
Video icon Q&A Does Alcohol Really Play That Much of a Part in Infidelity?
Video icon Q&A How Could My Wife Be Having an Affair When We Were Trying to Get Pregnant?
Video icon Q&A Was He Hoping to Get Caught in an Effort to Have Me End the Marriage?
Video icon Q&A Could There Really Be Such a Thing as a Midlife Crisis Affair?
Video icon Q&A Could Postpartum Depression Lead to an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is Being Immature or a Pastors Kid a Legitimate Reason for Making This Mistake?
Video icon Q&A Why Do I Still Feel like Its My Fault She Had a Affair? Is This Normal for Betrayed Men?
Video icon Q&A Is It Possible to Delude Oneself into Believing an Affair Wasn’t Emotional as a Means of Self Protection?
Video icon Q&A Did He Really Not Consider Me or His Children?