Why They Did It

The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty.

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Video icon Q&A What Keeps Someone from Cheating?
Video icon Expert Q&A Preview: Why Did I Do This and How Do I Get out of This Pit?
Video icon Q&A How Can She Be So Kind Now after the Way She Treated Me Just a Year Ago?
Video icon Q&A Why Do You Say Oral Sex Is 'Always about Sex'?
Video icon Q&A How Can We Figure out What the Affair Was About?
Video icon Q&A Why Was He a Different Person in His Affairs? Why Can't He Be More Like That with Me?
Video icon Q&A Is This Normal Limerence or Is He a Love Addict?
Video icon Q&A How Will My Spouse See That I Never Loved My Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A Why Should I Stay in a Marriage That Wasn't So Great to Begin With?
Video icon Q&A Is It Normal for Affair Partners to Be Called a Boyfriend or Girlfriend?
Video icon Q&A Is It Normal for Him to Still Think about Her and Desire Her?
Video icon Q&A Do Neglectful Mothers Create Sons Who Become Emotionally Unavailable and Love Avoidant Men?
Video icon Q&A How Can Someone Hate Their Parent's Infidelity and Then Do It Themselves?
Video icon Q&A Is She Finally Choosing Me or Is It Something Else?
Video icon Q&A What Do You Advise for Me to Set Safe Boundaries and Expectations?
Video icon Q&A Can you Help me Understand Men and Intimacy Avoidance?
Video icon Q&A He Desires the Affair Partner but is Choosing me Because it's the Right Thing to do. What do I do with that?
Video icon Q&A What can I Expect in Regards to my Wife Changing her Negative Historical Lens of Our Marriage?
Video icon Q&A How Could he go from Loving Her and Hating Me to Loving Me and Hating Her?
Video icon Q&A How can I Stop my Victim Thinking and Take Ownership for my Issues?
Video icon Q&A Why Did I Have an Affair? Was I My True Self During My Affair?
Video icon Q&A Why would he Cause me and His Affair Partner to be so Close Together?
Video icon Q&A Have you Seen a Marriage Recover from this Kind of Affair?
Video icon Q&A Can You Explain to me the Psychology Behind this Behavior?
Video icon Q&A What Can You make of All This?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Feel Safe While I Can't Remember Details that He Wants?
Video icon Q&A Why Does He Continually Want Her and Not Me?
Video icon Q&A Why Would He Make a Decision to do This?
Video icon Q&A How do you Know if Someone is a Sex Addict or Just Wanting Something More?
Video icon Q&A Is My Husband Evil, or Just Extremely Cruel?
Video icon Q&A Can There be no Feelings After an 8 Year Affair?
Video icon Q&A What Caused Him to Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A His Affair Partner is Toxic. Why Won't He Let Her Go?
Video icon Q&A Was His Infidelity Based on Me Not Being Who He Wants?
Video icon Q&A How did My Cycle of Grace Become My Cycle of Failure?
Video icon Q&A Why Isn't She Remorseful After Her Affair?
Video icon Q&A I was Unfaithful. Why do I Feel Betrayed?
Video icon Q&A How do I Stop Comparing Myself to the Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A Can a Person be Addicted to Emotional Affairs?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Handle My Wife Not Being Intimate After Her Affair?
Video icon Q&A Why Can't My Mate Stay Away from the Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A Why Didn't Anyone Tell Me?
Video icon Q&A What's the Relationship Between Trauma and Infidelity?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Not Blame Myself for Their Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Could I Do This to My Mate?
Video icon Q&A Why Did They Do Something We Can't Do Together?
Video icon Q&A What Causes Someone to do Such Horrific Things?
Video icon Q&A Does My Spouse Need Intensive Therapy?
Video icon Q&A Can Marriages Survive Mismatched Personalities and Sexual Differences?
Video icon Q&A What are Reasonable Expectations for Knowing the 'Why'?